Letter from Ms. Laura
As you prepare for the start of the school year, you may encounter an onslaught of mixed emotions: excitement, anticipation, worry, and, perhaps even a little anxiety. If you’re feeling any of the above, you’re not alone. Transitions are notorious for stirring up these feelings, regardless of whether you are dropping off your child for the first time or you’ve been doing this routine for years. The question is, “How do you manage these feelings while also holding space for your child’s feelings, ensuring a smooth transition for all?”
In a recent yoga class, I was reminded of the importance of maintaining balance between strength and flexibility in our practice, as well as our lives, which can be likened to a tree which must be strong and flexible in adapting to strong winds. Unfortunately, many of us feel we must be more like a rock during such transitions. The only problem with being a rock is that they can be unyielding and rigid. Allowing ourselves to be flexible while still tapping into our strength is paramount during such transitions and, when you model this approach for your child, you are helping them build skills in handling transitions that will last a lifetime.
Here are a few of our favorite tips to get you started on ensuring a smooth transition for all:
- Remember the importance of self-care. Although it may feel counter-intuitive to put yourself first, when you feel rested, you’ll feel more prepared to help your child through this transition.
- Remember you’re not alone. Self-care doesn’t mean having to do everything yourself! Reach out for support when you need it. Family, friends, fellow parents, and your child’s guides can all be valuable resources in approaching this transition and the more informed you are about what to expect, the more prepared (and the more relaxed) you will feel.
- Create a consistent routine while allowing for flexibility. Planning your routine ahead of time, while accepting that you may need to change your plans, will give you more peace of mind, and, we all know that a more peaceful parent equals a more peaceful child.
- Share your routine with your child and follow through. Involve your child in your plan. If they know what to expect, they may be more agreeable in following the plan. The key words here are “may be.” Remember that piece about allowing for flexibility?
- Acknowledge and accept your feelings and your child’s feelings through the transition. Of course, we all want to maintain a Zen state of mind during such transitions, but no one expects you to be Buddha! Allowing space for all of the feelings that arise through such transitions is often enough to help us move through them.
- Finally, be (or act) confident. Your child is looking to you for clues on how to handle this transition, and the more confidence you exude, the more confident your child will be!
Above all, enjoy the journey. We’re looking forward to another fabulous year of growth and discovery and we’re thrilled that you will be joining us on this adventure. Welcome and have a wonderful first week!